What do you call a person who is happy on a Monday? Unemployed!

-Author Unknown

I have been employed and unemployed in my journey as a job seeker several times. It’s been a few years since the first time I dealt with employment as well as unemployment. To keep things a little uncomplicated, I’ll only share the story of my first encounter with unemployment in this blog post.

Unemployment is one of the most baffling issue that contributes to high rates of depression and anxiety among all job seekers. Fortunately, I wasn’t prepared  to react with relevant mental state in my first time experience with unemployment. Soon, I would learn my lessons.

 

Unemployed, jobless
It’s the ‘well put together look’ outside, to ‘put together all the excitement’ inside!

The first time I was out and about searching for a suitable job, my enthusiasm knew no bounds. I was a bundle of positivity and took each interview as a great learning experience. And I have had a lot of such learning experiences. Some of them were pleasant where I came across decent people doing their jobs. But there were a few that I would neither call a pleasant experience nor with decent people.

Don’t you think, rejecting a potential candidate for the job is enough of a pain and the employer need not add insult to injury by harsh or rude behavior?

But things are pretty harsh and sometimes rude in the real world. Most of us have come to accept it that way, maybe I’ll too soon!

 

Unemployment, job interview
Got to look good for I’ll be interviewed!

After  a month of struggling with job search, I along with a friend of mine signed up with a private agency. The agency took a minimum service fee and would arrange interviews for us in between short intervals of time.

The interviews they sent me for were not suitable for my skill sets. Another thing that nagged me was in case I got a job I would have to pay the agency half of my first month’s income.

Luckily for me I never got the job, the only thing I got was a few more learning experiences. It did not work and I’ll advise everyone to stay away from all such private agencies at all costs.

Jobless, unemployed, true story
I’m not crying, just recycling my tears!

I was slowly beginning to feel lost in the never-ending search for the one job that would put an end to this search. Not knowing what to expect of myself and the whole situation, my mind was clouded with anxious thoughts. And, having no clue as to how to deal with such situations, increased my anxieties ten fold.

This is the most difficult part of being unemployed, when you find yourself almost defeated by circumstances. People will start getting on your nerves, any small remark or even a look will leave you feeling misjudged.

Even though I had done exactly the opposite, I (now) think we should not react to such judgements or people at all. Some of those people actually mean well and I know some only mean to be mean towards us. But who cares about such meany and unkind people? I don’t anymore!

 

Unemployment, true story
This is where I live now, in a self dugout hole!

At this point, The hardest thing I found was finding the strength to go on. My mind was spiraling between negative thoughts like you can’t, nothing will change, what’s the point of trying and so on and so forth.

Once you feel your lowest, you no longer can feel low after that point. So, I didn’t! I found my spirit not exactly high but at a friendly average mid range, which was enough for me to get past the day.

Days went by, on some of those days I found myself employed while on others unemployed. A few other days were also there when I chose to quit a job that took a lot of time and effort to get my hold on in the first place! That’s another story I’m saving for another post.

For now, I shall end this post with a positive note on what has kept me going through out those days. And, that one thing is the friendly average mid range spirit of mine!

Never let your spirit down!

Thank you, unemployment
Thank You so much for reading till the end!

A special ‘thank you’ to SpongeBob SquarePants for featuring in the post, which was intended to convey the message that ‘humor can make anything tolerable!’

🗨 Do you have a similar story like this one?
💬 What was your first encounter with unemployment like?
💭 Please do share your thoughts on this post!


 

77 thoughts on “A True Story: My first encounter with unemployment!

    1. Thank you so much Nicole for sharing about your experience. There are a lot of such con men out there trying to find prey on the jobless who are desperate for a job. We all need to be aware & careful of them.
      I’m really glad that you didn’t fall prey to one of those. 🙂

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  1. I believe the economy is much stronger than ever but most people have struggled with unemployment unless you are in health care like a nurse or a doctor: i have family and friends in the medical field and they have only been unemployed by choice. The good news is that if you are willing to move there is a teacher shortage in the public school districts of many states. But you may have to bite the bullet and stay where you are placed.

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      1. True. Many of the jobs and the fields depend on your level of adaptability which might be age, circumstances, etc. As a general rule: those embedded in health care have a wide access of jobs available along with opportunities. The more creative fields everywhere struggle. The more someone thinks a job is cool or interesting, the more difficult it is to get. Just my thoughts and each country is different, I am sure.

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  2. Well said.I don’t know the status of unemployed in other countries,but being an Indian,I can fully understand your feelings.we face all odds and it makes us more stronger and the Spirit stays on.I am sure soon you are going to be famous like many Indians who are the best in their own way and are leading top corporates in the world.I am also curious…are you still unemployed? Thank you for being frank in your post.

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your thought and for such kind words. I’m touched and humbled.
      I don’t know about getting famous but if I succeed in spreading my thoughts to those who can get some real value out of it, I’ll think I have succeeded.
      And to answer your question, I’m unemployed but at the same time trying to be self employed. Hope my efforts will pay off or else the same struggle shared in this post will be repeated again!
      Hope you have a great week ahead of you 🙂

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    1. Thank you so much for your wishes.
      I’m most fortunate that I get to connect with kindred spirits such as yourself.
      Yes, let’s keep this process of exchanging views going for as long as possible, we can even improve & change by each other’s positive influence.

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  3. I’m now permanently unemployed through disability (epilepsy, anxiety, PTSD and a few other things). I’m an experienced care assistant and was planning to train as an RGN, specialising in elderly dementia patients; unfortunately, as my seizures became more and more frequent and violent, I had to accept that I will never care for such people again. That was a really bitter pill to swallow – but I can’t risk my seizures causing harm to such frail people. I’m also not allowed to operate machinery or drive (both laws here) so that leaves me very little. I did think about the local supermarket, but imagine being autistic with anxiety during the busier times – it just can’t be done!

    I walk with a stick for both confidence and personal safety due to epilepsy affecting my balance; I’m currently in a wheelchair due to a recent hip fracture. Because of my age, people haven’t looked down on me in any obvious manner – they’ve mainly assumed that I work shifts, or part time, or that my husband is the breadwinner (which he now is, but until he found his current job he used up all his savings as my career, and I was in receipt of disability benefits).

    This may all sound quite depressing for someone as young as myself (I’m 44), but I managed to turn it to my advantage, and to the advantage of many others out there who feel isolated, who think they’re the only young people dealing with what I deal with every day. I turned to blogging in order to find and support these people – I tell my story so that others don’t have to; I turn up in any search for epilepsy and autism (and now for hip fractures, I assume). I work closely with Epilepsy Action as a media volunteer; I even cured my debilitating arachnophobia and have been on TV, on the radio and in the news to encourage others not to fear the most helpful creatures in our ecosystem (I also keep tarantulas, and have helped close friends with their fear – only for them to become keepers themselves).

    Sorry for the ramble! My opinion is that, sometimes, we’re meant for other things. I can’t work with dementia patients any more, but I can still advise and support their families; I was never intended to moulder away in a factory, doing a soulless job that I received no thanks for. We all have a purpose in life, and my purpose appears to involve brains and compassion as opposed to physical labour. If she were still alive, my grandmother (who I was particualrly close to) would tell me that this was meant to be, and that the gods had a different purpose for me in mind even as I was being born.

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    1. Wow! That was such an inspiring story, how can I thank you for sharing it here with me?
      I’ll say it anyways, thank you so much! I’m truly inspired. And I bet you must have inspired quite a few people out there.
      You’re really doing some amazing work and I just want to wish you all the luck in your endeavors.
      When we put things in perspective, we often come to realize everything happened for a purpose & how everything is connected. Everything in the end will make sense. Only if we could hold on to our faith, we would never forget this little piece of wisdom.

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      1. It was mainly my mother-in-law who came up with ideas for what I could do that was helpful but didn’t involve doing things I can’t. “I’ve seen your writing,” she said. “Maybe you can’t work, but I think you ought to write a book and do some blogging” (she knew I had a far less serious blog back then, on another platform).

        And she was right. I don’t get paid for what I do, but my modus operandi in life has always been to support others, be kind… just offer whatever support and help and comfort that I can. It’s amazing to me, what I’ve been able to achieve for others from the confines of my bedroom!

        I’ve only ever wanted to do good, and I’m so glad that I have the platforms and the words to achieve that 🙂

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  4. My last bout of unemployment was after being laid off from a failing law firm because of “insufficient work coming in to justify my salary.” So I applied for Unemployment Insurance. While there I met with an employment counselor. He said, possibly after eating a lemon, “Oh, you had a good salary.” I knew from having worked for the State of California in prior years, that I had been earning twice what this man’s monthly take was. He subsequently lined me up with one job after another, all of which offered less than half what I had been making. He said, “You know, beggars can’t be so choosy.” So I went off and got my own job without his help, thank you very much. So my advice to anyone looking for work, whether it is for your first job or between jobs, is to assess your skill sets, be ready to supply them to your interviewer, have resume in hand, be ready to tell what projects you worked on and how successful they were (for first-timers, don’t forget that science project you and two others worked on in high school that you received an award for), don’t be shy about promoting yourself. You just may find that you, yourself will live up to your own expectations.

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    1. Thank you so much Barbara for sharing about your experience with unemployment. That employment counselor sucked at his job, to speak so insensitively at his position. You did well by going on your own instead of depending on such unreliable person.
      You have shared some great advices, very useful and practical. Thanks for that 🙂

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  5. Nice post and I could totally understand your feeling of trying for a job, knowing you deserve to be there but … staying in US on dependent visa(cannot apply for jobs😢) and unemployment since forever(almost 5 years) has made me experience some not so good vibes from people.. I now have my blog, and it makes me feel worthy.. I hope someday I get to work and get a tag of employed! 😊

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    1. Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It is indeed very hard but stay strong and positive, you’ll get the right job at the right time, hopefully soon. Blogging has also helped me in developing a better perspective of things by expressing my thoughts & connecting with like-minded people such as yourself.

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      1. Thank you for posting this subject. It is so hard to unemployed after working all your life. 😦 and there are so many of us on this planet who are all going through this.

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      1. Sometimes it’s comforting to know that you’re not alone. And my story ended of quite well, I stumbled into what I found is my passion and I hope to make a business for myself

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    1. Thank you for correcting me, I guess I’m in between jobs. For me its more like potato-patata though! Lol!
      You are so right about unemployment being looked down upon. I think it’s in most countries. There is a lot of stigma attached to unemployment in our country. And who are these people who’re judgemental about it? Most definitely not the unemployed!

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  6. I can understand as I’m unemployed myself 😃 well, it’s hard, really hard, no one will understand unless they are unemployed themselves, I’m going through harsh words and downgrading gazes all the time, I took them in and can’t lie that I still feel anxious if not now even more than before but I try to be a bit positive because I know mental health is quite important and if I loose it then it will be worse …
    Thank you for sharing your story 💕

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    1. Thank you for sharing about your experiences! I have experienced many situations quite similar to your’s. I completely agree with you that mental health is very important. Especially now, when there’s so much negativity & judgemental attitude around us. But there is plenty of inspiration & motivation to deal with that too. We just need to be patient & keep our faith strong.

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  7. Being unemployed and especially the first time is a humbling experience for even the most confident of us. As you shared, keeping your spirits up is one of the most important things any unemployed person can do. Thanks for sharing and we look forward to reading more about your experiences!

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